A Little Bit of Me

I'm not sure that phrase works in Florida. Case in point: a recent experience my family had at the local Arby's restaurant.  This was a few weeks ago now, and my father, my Minion, and myself were out shopping and since it was close to lunch time and my Minion had been exceptionally well-behaved that day, we decided to reward her with Arby's. She loves the food and we don't get out to eat much, since taking my grandmother out in public usually ends in embarrassment.  So the three of us walk in and there's no one in the lobby. No customers. And no customers in the drive thru, as we had just walked past it to enter the building. The assistant manager was taking orders for the lobby, identified on her name tag as ASSISTANT MANAGER. I forget her name by now, but she was a cute little brunette. She took my father's order while my Minion and I took a detour to the bathroom. When we came back, my father asked if he was paying for us or if we were splitting it. I sa...

This blog post is very personal to me. My youngest, who I call Minion, has a deadbeat dad.Or sperm donor, as I usually call him. Long story short, he begged me to have a baby with him, which was my first mistake - giving in to his begging. Then, when I was 2 months pregnant and we had just gotten confirmation of my due date, he decided that he was scared and didn't want her anymore, so he tried to beat her out of me. I fought back and he went to prison. I gave birth in September 2012, and a year later, I moved to Florida, to get away from him. He had been out on bail before the trial and wouldn't leave me alone, even though there was a no contact order. Once I knew he would be going to prison, I notified him of my intent to move and took my minion to Florida, where my family is. I needed the support system and he didn't even attempt to keep us in Wisconsin.  Fast forward to April 2016. The sperm donor has been out of prison and on parole since December. He kept contacting...

So I had a reading the other day, and it was amazingly accurate. I'm amazed that it was so accurate, but at the same time, I'm not...because I'm not very hard to figure out, for the people I let close enough to see me.  Anyway, the complete reading is too long to really post here, but I'm going to post the link here anyway, since it is much easier to understand it when you can read the complete reading from start to finish, instead of me babbling about it. You can read at your leisure. :)  Anyway, here goes my reaction to my first reading since probably high school. The deck that was used was the Wild Wisdom of the Faery Oracle deck, which I hadn't seen before. The graphics and details of the pictures on the cards were fantastic and realistic, which I hadn't really thought about much until after the reading was complete. The pictures really matched what the cards were. The first card represents the Past - My Past. The Storykeeper was the card drawn, an...

Now, I've never truly been in a "real" relationship where we went on dates and didn't move in right away or move things too fast. But I'm pretty sure I have a decent idea of what not to do while in one, seeing as I have plenty of experience in what doesn't work. Don't cheat.  Don't lie.  Don't pretend to be someone you're not just to make someone else happy.  Don't forget to tell the other person how you feel about them.  Take risks, but don't forget who you are in the process.  Don't change for someone else. Change to make yourself better, not because someone doesn't like your sense of humor or the clothes you wear or the music you like.  Compromise on the small things, but don't keep score. Don't do the "well, I cleaned the bathroom last time, so now you have to do it" or "I got up with the baby last night, now it's your turn".  Don't make the simple things into big things because y...

So, it's been a while since I posted and a lot of things have happened. Which I'll get to, probably in a later post. However, one thing I wanted to chat about is dating and my thoughts on it.  Now, I haven't had much experience lately with dating, with so many things going on in my personal life. Between work and being a single mom, there hasn't been much time for the things I'd prefer to be doing, like meeting someone. But here are my random, as always, thoughts on dating in this day and age.  No one likes a clingy woman. And the ones who claim they do, are lying. The number one quality I pride myself on is being strong and perfectly fine with the idea of being alone. No one to answer to, no one to argue with over whether the toilet paper should be over or under. Hell, most of the time, I'm just happy there's a roll there when I need it! True, there are times when I have my moments and wish I could find my "prince" but rationally, I know...

Exactly....too many people are thin skinned fucktards who want everyone to walk on eggshells n not speak their mind because someone, somewhere, MIGHT be offended. Well, I'm sorry if I offend you with speaking the truth and not caring who I offend. If I offend you with the truth, then you are lying to yourself and that, my friends, cannot be anyone's fault but your own. Take ownership of the stupid shit you do and say. If someone calls you out on it, accept it and move the fuck on! I am tired of people making comments about things, only to act offended when someone shows them facts proving they were wrong. I am tired of people worrying about offending someone. You know who should be offended? Every military veteran, police officer, firefighter, and basic human being who is forced to listen to and read all the ridiculous 'black lives matter' horseshit that has taken over the media. How about 'all lives matter'? Or maybe we should just stop publicizing the dark...

Sitting at the breakfast table, listening to dad tell yet another one of his stories about truck driving where, inevitably, it comes out that he knows everything and the guys loading or unloading his truck are morons....I suddenly get the urge to scream "NO ONE CARES!" Because, in reality, no one does... But grams and dad are good for each other. Dad likes to retell stories and grams can't remember what she hears, almost as soon as she hears it. It's just the rest of us able-minded people who get irritated and wish we could have the remote from Click so we can mute or fast-forward the same stories every day. I don't mean to sound heartless, but Alzheimer's doesn't take its toll on its patients. They can't remember what is happening to them. Alzheimer's takes its toll on the close family of the patient, who deal with it daily and can't find support groups or even just support from other, extended family, mainly because we are afraid of telling...